Beauty Lies In The Eyes of The Beholder

The first thing people notice about someone of the opposite sex is their physical appearance. You walk into a social setting, see someone from across the room, and you can’t help but stare at them. You try to be subtle, you make a quick glance, and then immediately look away before they notice you checking them. But, you were too slow, and that person noticed you grilling them from afar. At this point, you begin to panic and psychologically freak yourself out. Then mentally you tell yourself to act natural, don’t be an idiot, and play it cool. In your mind, you already siked yourself out though and then you begin to think to yourself, why God? Why did this have to happen? Why? How many times has this scenario played out in your head? Why are people so hard on themselves?

First and foremost, every human being on the planet wants to be considered attractive, admired, desirable. The first step to being considered attractive is taking care of your physical appearance. People who take care of themselves not only have better self-confidence, but it also shows that you are put together. You make an effort. Remember, you define your own standards of attractiveness. You never realize how attractive you may be in someone else’s eyes, so don’t be hard on yourself. In my eyes, the most attractive quality in the opposite sex is self-confidence. There’s nothing more striking than someone who knows that they want in life and goes after it.

In the world of filters, makeup, and photoshopped images remember that you do not need to look like someone else to be considered attractive. You do not need to look like Zayn Malik, Ryan Jason Momoa, or Chris Hemsworth , Penélope Cruz, Deepika Padukone, or Gal Gadot. Just because you do not look like someone you find attractive does not mean you are unattractive. Flowers, sunsets, and scenic views are all beautiful for photographs, right?

There is a billion ways to be considered easy on the eyes. There are millions of people in the world who would not consider me their cup of tea and there’s nothing wrong with that either. I cannot force someone to find me attractive and neither can you. If someone is not physically, mentally, or emotionally attracted to you, then remember it’s their loss not yours. Although a physical attraction is more common, a mental connection is foreign and rare to find nowadays. It’s a shame. You should strive to be someone’s soul food rather than just their eye candy. Beauty may fade, yet a kind-heart and good personality lasts a lifetime. Question of the day: What is one quality that you consider attractive in another person?

Wherever you are in the world stay happy, healthy, and safe! ❤️


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